It's My Birthday :)

I'm 22!!
Thanks to all who came out to Vino Libro, it really meant a lot! Looking forward to continuing in DC this weekend and a successful 22nd year of life, love, and my blind pursuit :)

My friends are my estate. -- Emily Dickinson

whenever you have time take a look at this and tell me your thoughts. http://www.vbs.tv/watch/the-vice-guide-to-travel/the-vice-guide-to-liberia

It's unfortunately pretty realistic. Yeah it sucks that we went through so much but how should Americans feel that this is their colony? And should our country be more of a spectacle because of all this?

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Faded Pictures

My icon's hotter than yours. The Dorothy.

so many women would kill for your body, why do you want to lose so much weight?

I really appreciate the compliment! I want to live a long and healthy life and wear string bikinis and I really can't do that now. I want that my-chick-bad body, and it's gonna take a little bit more work.

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Is it Just Me?

... Or are men full of shit these days?

This week the public went crazy after finding out Elin wanted $750 million dollars to ease her pain and end the marriage with Tiger. Yeah $750 million dollars is a lot of money, but I think once a man cheats, he loses all negotiating power. I mean, would she have been more worthy of such a settlement had she caught an STD? Why are men so quick to say Elin’s wrong for this? Helloooo. He cheated. My physical health is worth more than half your income. The vows we made before God are worth everything else and then some. You shouldn’t expect me to simply walk away knowing you’re an asshole, I need you to remember the woman you did this to.

Take Swizz and Mashonda: Alicia Keys is one of the baddest chicks ever. Beleedat. But when the man is married why can’t he respect his relationship and keep himself from being ontop of another woman? It’s like being married isn’t enough to expect exclusivity. You have to move to a barren island to keep your man to yourself these days.

If this is what it is, I don’t want it. A girl I know said, “show me a faithful man, and I’ll show you his mistress.” Even though at first it seemed like a harsh quote, the more I see the unfortunate trysts of apparently beautiful couples, I’m left to wonder how quickly the beauty of a marriage may end after the white dress comes off. Maybe women are entering into relationships expecting bad behavior, and drawing into their lives the negative energy they think about. Maybe we check cell phones and emails for messages that aren't really there. Maybe we make up his late night activities to stir our own insecurities. Or maybe men are full of shit.

Here's an excerpt from Robert Greene's The Art of Seduction.

The Seductive Character -- The Ideal Lover :: Most people have dreams in their youth that get shattered or worn down with age. They find themselves disappointed by people, events, reality, which cannot match their youthful ideals. Ideal lovers thrive on people’s broken dreams, which become lifelong fantasies. You long for romance? Adventure? Lofty spiritual communication? The ideal lover reflects your fantasy. He or she is an artist in creating the illusion you require. In a world of disenchantment and baseness, there is limitless seductive power in following the path of the Ideal Lover.

So I need an Ideal Lover, and full of shit men need not apply. If you cheat on me, I’m taking more than half, and will happily go to court to fight your cheating ass for it. Is it just me?

Law 20: Do Not Commit to Anyone

I'm a week into my summer, have my fabulous new internship, and super stressful classes. I opened up my favorite behavioral guide and fell upon my medicine.

Law 20:: Do Not Commit to Anyone:: It is the fool who always rushes to take sides. Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself. By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others -- playing people against one another, making them pursue you.

One of the reasons I love this book is that I can read the same laws over again and they speak to me in different ways each time. The law above is telling me to invest in myself with loose commitment to anything else. By taking the options the universe offers, I am committed to myself and becoming the master of the varying path I will follow.

When I was a freshman in college, I knew I would be a big time marketing executive because that's where all the money was, according to my mom. I had a gift for speaking and was very likable, so this would certainly be the best career road for me. I often think about where I would be if I had stayed committed to this path. Would it be like living in a loveless marriage? Would I wake up every morning to pick out a well tailored suit and boring shoes? Then I would spend my early mornings in traffic listening to syndicated radio shows where everyone's problems were addressed but mine. I'd hop out of my luxury hybrid vehicle, because I can't choose which element is more important to my ride, and my only fun would be at the occasional happy hour I could attend when I wasn't too tired or depressed about my loveless marriage of a career.

Yeah, thank God I have the faith to commit to my innermost self.

Don't get it twisted, I can appreciate a 9 to 5. Money's guaranteed, and that's always all good. And hopefully one day the man I choose to spend the rest of my unmarried life with will be somewhat corporate. I like business clothes on a man as well as on the floor. But I only recommend sticking to that 9 to 5 if it's a commitment to what your heart dreams of, what your body believes in, and what your mind deserves.

So I'm loveLoveLOVING my new internship at RollingOut Magazine. It's only been three days, but when I go, my crazy shoes are appreciated, my smoky voice is loved, and all my talents are welcome. Had I stayed with the marketing plan, I would have been a fool. This opportunity found me, and I have been able to open up to it as I wasn't committed to anything else. I'm not in a loveless marriage. My dreams are courting me. I've got those first date butterflies. I just wanna lay in it.

The secret to power is understanding you already have it; it's just waiting to be released. I am discovering my power day by day. Each time I tell my soul "yes," I can feel myself being pulled in the direction I am meant to go. It's a lifting feeling ...a high if you must. I shut my eyes in question and open them in decision. I may be an intern, but dammit I have such power. No fears, just desire and space for fulfillment.

So how was your day?

I encourage everyone to selfishly commit to themselves. Life's short. If you don't commit to you, it'll be a brief and lonely life. And while I'm telling tales in heaven of the amazing places I visited, the beautiful people I met, the wonderful sex I had, and the delicious food I ate, it'd be nice to have someone to compare stories with.

Fin.

Things I’m Loving Right Now: Brazilian Wax

I know some of you were looking for the oral sex issue, and it’s coming, but how can the first thing I write about this month be such a sexual topic? I still have to think about my mom reading this you know. To ease you into the cold water of private-part talk, I decided to start slower, with harmless hair pulling from the vagina. Don’t fret, your favorite guilty pleasure blog will still provide.


I’m a fan of the Brazilian wax, and so are many of my friends and family in Atlanta. Maybe there’s something to be said about emerging from the salon looking like a five-year old girl, and maybe it’s just a curious naked change a woman can make. Either way, if you’re wearing a small swimsuit this summer (which I definitely am), I recommend trying the Brazilian wax at least once, and here is your confidence guide to taking it all off.

First, pick your salon:
I’ve been to three places in Atlanta for a Brazilian wax, and although the end result has always been the same, bare vagina, the processes have all been extremely different.

Hair Images off North Druid Hills : $32 – Hair Images is THE place to go to get an amazing eyebrow threading with mediocre customer service. However, behind the rows of threading chairs there are rooms where they rip hair from your cooch. Literally, they rip it. My very first Brazilian in the world was at Hair Images. Hair Images uses the wax strips, which were super painful, and they double dip the applicator into the wax heater, which isn’t very sterile. The pain I endured was phenomenal and the cosmetologist told me to stop squirming because I was annoying her. Pros: It was cheap and my hair was gone. Cons: I love myself too much to put myself through that place again.

Sweet Samba on Monroe Dr : $35 for your first time, $48 after that – Sweet Samba is the salon that makes you feel like a pretty princess. If you can find a parking space to the little house on Monroe, you’re met with big smiles and a glass of wine if the city hasn’t stopped them from serving that perk. With an in-house boutique and TV’s over each waxing bed, Sweet Samba has bells and whistles for sure. Luckily they have the hard wax instead of the strips, which is a little (and I mean little) less painful. The chatty cosmetologists make you feel super comfortable as they snip and wax all your privates, and you can’t miss the friendly sign over the register reminding customers to tip. Pros: It’s too cute to hate. Cons: The price jump for returning customers makes me only a first time customer.

Brazilian Wax by Andreia : $35 – Everyone’s passed this salon on their way to Lenox Mall. It’s got bright pink letters that explain their specialty service, and in my quick visit I became a fan. In short, I had never considered going regularly until I spread my legs on their table. The cosmetologist wasn’t very chatty, but she was so quick I forgot to feel pain. Before I could flinch the hair was gone. My baby girl was bare, and my tummy too at no additional charge. Andreia’s salon prides themselves on taking less than 15 minutes for the process, and the nerves on my va-jay-jay thank them for that. Pros: They’re good at what they do. Cons: The experience is so fast, you may not feel pampered.

Second, you may want to choose your own place to get it done:
There are a few things you will want to check out when choosing a Brazilian wax salon.

• Read the reviews of the salon. This isn’t a place you want to blaze trails, this is your vagina. Make sure the people who are handling yours have ample experience handling others.
  
• Know what you are asking for. A Brazilian wax leaves a landing strip. If you want all your hair removed, request a Hollywood wax or simply say “take it all off.”
  
• Make sure the salon is sterile. There should be a paper on the bed where you will be waxed, and the salon should still clean the bed between each client. Your wax should come in its own disposable container if the cosmetologist is using the same waxing stick. If she’s using wax in a heating pot, she should never put the same stick in the pot twice, because… eew.

Last, prepare yourself!

• Book your appointment for one week after your period ends for your own sake. It’s less painful right at that time, and any leverage you can get on this end will be greatly appreciated.
  
• Take 2 advil an hour before “show” time if you’re uber sensitive.
  
• Be clean! Shower two hours before your appointment. Any later and you will sweat on the table, and it’s always polite to freshen up.
  
• Afterward, rub an aloe lotion all over your waxed areas, just so they don’t stick together.

My crazy wax stories:

• The first time I got waxed, I was definitely on the phone with a friend for comfort. I screamed and squealed right into my blackberry.
• I kind of wish the women at Andreia’s would talk a bit more. It’s like I invited you into my secret garden and you didn’t even buy me dinner first. Come on. What's my last name at least?
  
• I’m always stuck together afterward. Cosmetologists always recommend waiting a few hours before putting hot water down there to separate yourself, but give me a break! It’s a weird feeling, and aloe cream makes me tingle.
• I like to look at the finished product. Don’t tell anyone. It’s kind of weird to be hairless! And kind of hot and Brazilian all at the same time!

Dear Blog

You are my drug and I am a fiend. This school thing is getting in the way of our love affair, but don't worry, I'll re-up soon.

Passionately,
Vanity

When can we expect a new blog post? Or informative youtube video? (Lol especially like the double downs)

I got you as soon as school gets done! Then I'm going HAMM! Thanks so much for the love and support! As always, check out back posts while you wait! Read about the laws of power, cant get enough of that :) http://sjbthewords.com

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When da hell are we going out on our date??!!!! Feel like you puttin me to the side for a reason!

LMAO I know who this is and just know that I love you but im tryna get these grades in right nah :) you lucky you graduated but dont you forget the struggle. oh yeah, everyone follow @theheroes !!

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